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Monday, November 14, 2016

Fight for one daughter at a time

This past weekend, I attended the 30th Anniversary of an organization I’m affiliated with called the Maryland Coalition Against Pornography. I was surprised and honored when at the end they presented me with an award for my work in the movement.

I’m moved because this Friday, I turn 29, so this organization literally has been existing and fighting the porn epidemic my entire lifetime. Picking up the torch, I will fight for the rest of my life.

I fight for women like the traumatized event’s speaker, whose father had a porn addiction, which lead to cheating on his wife and eventually to purchasing a prostitute.

I fight for men (and women) I’ve talked to over the years who have a hard time quitting their addiction, want it out of their life so they can love their families and friends the way they were meant to. I fight for men like one I met in Texas, that after hearing my story, decided to tell his wife about his addiction and together is turning their marriage around.

I fight for children---especially my girls---who want a porn-free daddy in their lives to love them, hug them, and see them for the amazing daughters that they are.

I’m nowhere near perfect personally with this fight. And maybe I won’t change the world. But I will fight for the world of difference for one daughter at a time who gets to grow up with a father and mother who sees her with porn-free, pure, and loving eyes.

That is worth fighting for the rest of my life.

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Father, the Pro-Life Movement is Better than This

This post is concerning a popular priest’s stunt concerning an aborted fetus a few days ago.  If you do not know what I’m talking about, that’s a good thing.

I must make clear that his actions does not and should not represent what the Pro-Life movement nor what Catholic identity is all about.  Many of my friends of the younger Catholic generation and I are angry at his stunt, and higher authorities are reprimanding his actions as they should.

Although I didn’t vote for Trump (nor Hillary for that matter), I am optimistic, as I’m sure many are, about the possibility of real change in policy and laws concerning abortion.  However, let’s be clear, as important it is for the law to change, it’s even more important that hearts do, too.

I believe we are on the tipping point of the pro-life movement.  So let’s remember what our positive message should be.

I believe that pregnant women and their partners deserve to know all of their options of truth, love, and support concerning carrying through with the pregnancy, keeping the baby or offering the life for adoption before they make the choice of abortion.  Unfortunately too many women and their partners  in these situations believe abortion is their only choice and are unaware of the life-affirming love and support available to them.  They deserve better.

For two years I worked at a pregnancy resource center, Centro Tepeyac, that was that shining light that gave dignity of choice, support, and love to these women and couples.  Our main job was to give compassion, truth, and counsel to women and their boyfriends considering abortion.  I’d simply ask guys to tell me the pros of keeping the baby and then “pros” of going through with the abortion.  Nine times out of ten their list of keeping the baby outweighed the other.  I’d also spell out their third option of offering the baby for adoption.  Lastly, I would tell them that I would be there for them no matter their decision.  If they kept the baby, I could offer him diapers, clothes, and connect them to the right insurance agencies, walking every step with them.  If they chose adoption, we could point them to our waiting list of people waiting to adopt.  We have even been there at the hospital helping them connect their newborn baby with his or her new adopted parents.  And even if they were to choose abortion, I said I would be there for him after because unfortunately, many guys go through depression when this happens.  I’ve had one guy call me back crying on the phone, “Matt, I feel like I lost my fatherhood,” and I, with God’s grace, helped console him.

Our Center has seen a number of women who have been raped, who then became aware of their option to adopt, offered the baby to parents waiting to love them, and mother, child, and adoptive parents were all happy in the end.

What if women and couples got to have dignified conversations, love, and information like this allowing them to really see all their options and support there is for each?

That is what the Pro-Life movement should be about.  I’m for life-affirming messages like what Centro Tepeyac and amazing Save the Storks is doing.  Not the stunt of this well-intentioned but totally inappropriate actions of this priest.

Let’s move together and build upon the positive message that women, men, and the unborn in these situations do deserve better.  May our hearts change together.


Wednesday, April 6, 2016

I'm a sinner. And you are, too.

I'm a sinner and you are, too.
(Makes for a pretty good children's book title if you ask me)

It's 1 o'clock Wednesday morning and I can't go to bed.  Being a usually heavy sleeper and can sleep anywhere, I take note that if I can't go to bed, it's usually a sign from God that I'm meant to do something else with my time.

Usually it's to write.

Tuesday, February 23, 2016

My baby gender prediction for #2

So I've told a lot of people my theory, but I wanted to put it in public with a time stamp to prove I did have the theory down on paper before given results.

Today Mimi and I will find out the sex of our baby #2.

Before Teresa was born, I had this theory:

That our first three children will be girls.  So far I'm one for one.  We'll find out if we're two for two tonight....  to be continued!

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Video: Redskins QB Kirk Cousins a man for God

To my first-place Redskins fans: did you know Kirk Cousins is a man for God?
"Having a faith in Jesus Christ allows [me] to have an inner peace, a peace that passes all understanding,...” Cousins adds. “At the end of the day, I have an inner joy, and if I keep honoring Him and having a relationship with Him, He’s going to have my back."
An interview when he was a senior QB at Michigan State. Pretty cool.

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

28 Pieces of Advice to Myself from 28 years of life

Today is my birthday.  Every year I try to reflect on what I picked up each year and what I want to remember and build on.  The following is 28 pieces of advice to myself from my self-reflection of the past year.

16. Continue to fall in love with Jesus in the Eucharist. What a blessing it has been to see and be with Him almost everyday in adoration.

1. Continue to fall in love with God. Take time to be with Him every day.

2. Always shoot for complete and utter honesty and transparency in marriage. It is the highest form of intimacy and trust I can share with my wife.

3. Always post at Mass and a rosary in the morning. Even and especially when I don't feel like it.

4. "Blessed are the pure of heart for they will see God." Purity is a means to God's calling in life, not the end.

5. Fight4Her

6. Be available to God's timing.

7. Be secure that God always provides.

8. ACTS. Adoration, Contrition, Thanksgiving, Supplication.  This type of prayer (who you first learned from dad) at the beginning of the day has been so fruitful.  
Adoration---take a moment to tell Him you adore and love Him.
Contrition---tell Him you're sorry for the things you did or failed to do in the past 24 hours.
Thanksgiving---thank Him for all the things and moments of good of the past day.
Supplication---ask Him and pray for others that are in your heart and mind.

9. Say I'm sorry and thank you to my wife every day. It's always needed. Say it to her eyes.

10. God's mercy will never out do us. Thank God for the Sacrament of Reconciliation and its constant availability at the Shrine. (Hint: always leave near the Basilica, Matt)

11. Joyfully give and give some more when I have the opportunity.  I always feel good after it, and it always comes back ten fold.

12. Try to go to bed and and wake up at the same time. Our 10ish pm and 5ish am wake up seems to be working lately.

13. Always remember how blessed you are, with an amazing God, a supportive wife, loving family and friends, and a job and mission that makes me fully alive.

14. We're called to be faithful, not successful. -Mother Teresa

15. Strive everyday for private victories: moments when you know no one is looking or would know what you're doing, and you choose to do the right thing anyway.

16. Continue to fall in love with Jesus in the Eucharist. What a blessing it has been to see and be with Him almost everyday in adoration.

17. Always continue to humbly ask if what I'm doing and the direction I'm going is what and where God wants me to do.

18. Dude, you are a screwup! Left to your own devices and sin, you could very well waste your life away. You definitely have wasted whole days sometimes. Build that muscle to put yourself in winning positions.

19. Schedule diligently with the gain and maintain method. Remember discipline and consistency is the path to success.

20. Having a plan is always better than not having one.

21. No matter what always give and save money consistently.

22. Soak in how cute and precious Teresa is, she will always outdo herself.

23. As hard as it is, always take time to sit in silence to listen to God. 

24. Always say I love you because today could be the last.

25. Always remember your mission and vision for yourself and for others. Let that true North point your compass.

26. Try to be available to others. We can't go far in life without the help of friends.

27. #KeepPounding -Carolina Panthers motto

28. "Siempre adelante" -Pope Francis

Here's to more birthdays to come!