Friday, November 21, 2014

Why to wait until marriage...

Read this this morning and it's a gem.  I feel compelled to share it, and can no longer be afraid to tell the truth.  Words on why to wait until marriage to have sex...

Essential to preparing for marriage is your vocation to chastity.  I know that young people reject hypocrisy.  You want to be honest with yourselves and others.  A chaste person is honest.  When God created us he gave us more than one way to "speak" to each other.  Besides expressing ourselves through speech, we express ourselves through our bodies.  Gestures are like "words" that tell who we are.  Sexual actions are "words" that reveal our hearts.  The Lord wants us to use our sexuality according to his plan.  He expects us to "speak" truthfully.  Honest sexual "language" requires a commitment to lifelong fidelity.  To give your body to another person symbolizes the total gift of yourself to that person.  But if you are not married, you are admitting that you might change your mind in the future.  Total self-giving would then be absent.  Without the bond of marriage, sexual relations are a lie. . . . Do not be deceived by the empty words of those who ridicule chastity or your capacity of self-control. 
-St. John Paul the Great 

Monday, November 17, 2014

26 Things I'd Like To Remember When Turning 27

My birthday has showed up out of nowhere.  So for the past couple of days, I've tried to reflect on my life on where we've come, and where we want to go.  As a result, the following, in no particular order, have been things I've learned this year that I'd like to keep in mind for this following one.

1.  The thought of being a father excites, intimidates, motivates, and terrifies me all in equal measures.

2. Be present to people one person at a time.

3. I'm called to share the message even if I can't always get my self together.
#4. The tortoise always wins.

4. The tortoise always wins the race.

5.I need to always fight for my bride, even during peace time. 

6. Be love driven.

7. "We're called to be faithful, not successful"
-Mother Teresa

8. Be faithful, and success will come.

9. I'm not perfect, nor can I be.

10. I always have to choose God over my wife.

11. Tithing is awesome.

12. Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University has given me so much power about where our finances are and where it's going.

13. Facebook and YouTube had taken up way too much of my time. Maybe it's time to do away with it. Often I wish I could completely.

14. I love to read, as slow as I am at it. I've read some awesome books this year and hope to read more.

15. At least starting a daily rosary every day has changed my life.
#15. Game changer

16. Striving to get to daily Mass has changed my life

17. Getting to frequent weekly adoration had changed my life 

18. I need to lean on others more.

19. Working with men and their unborn babies has changed my life. 

20. Planning a week ahead of time makes a world of difference.

21. Keeping full communication transparency in a marriage has been an amazing gift.

22. I love how beautiful my wife is, especially when she's pregnant. 

23. I'm so lucky to work with two amazing staffs.

24. I suck at life when I isolate myself. Avoid it.

25. Saying that I'm going to do something, then doing it is one of the best feelings of the world.

26. My spiritual life is like a stock market line graph, it's frequently up and down, but over time it's gone up. I have to find peace in that.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

The Video on Porn every Parent Needs to Watch

If you have kids, this video on how to understand and protect the harms porn has on children is a must watch.  Highly recommend.  This next 30 minutes will explain the science, theology, and the practicality of porn harm on children.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

So I got shingles

So for the past two weeks, I've had shingles.  For those that don't know (like myself), shingles is something you get when you're extremely stressed out.  And it's usually mostly old people who get it.  So, at age 26, with careers that I love, I'm mostly embarrassed to say I got it.  To keep a long story short, I had a very difficult case at Centro Tepeyac, a pregnancy resource center where I help mentor men and pregnant girlfriends, and tried to take on more than I can handle.  And my body took the hit.

I say this not to receive pity (shingles is known for extreme pain, I was fortunate that it wasn't that bad), but to share something I've learned---I can't do everything.  If you're like me and want to do everything and everything well, please take this as a reminder.  Especially if you're doing God's work, remember it's God's work, not yours.  I had forgotten this.  Remember to lean on others and delegate.  Something else I'm still learning.  Remember to healthily communicate burdens and not swallow emotion.  I learned the hard way.

Getting sick is one thing.  Getting sick for things you can prevent is another.  Take care of yourself, everyone.  Trust me, everyone's a lot better off with a consistently healthy, maybe seemingly less productive you. Not a super productive, but then falls-apart-later you.  May we all remember it.

I ask for prayers for a full recovery from 90 to 100% feeling like me hopefully soon.

With humility,