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Monday, September 17, 2012

Where am I? Right where I'm supposed to be

This past weekend I went to a party and met some people who I felt were right where they're supposed to be in life.  One guy I met has waited for months for a job to reach him, and now he's in the middle of choosing between two really good jobs that will shape his career.  One woman from Arkansas (haven't met anyone from there) decided to follow God's sign and attend school at the JPII Institute at CUA and she loves it.  The one throwing the housewarming party just moved to that place, which was pretty nice, and she seems to love her job where she is now.

I made a comment to all of them how it seems they are right where they're supposed to be.  Who knows where we'll be in five, ten years from now, but right now, they are exactly where they need to be.

Let's ask that question for ourselves: are we right where we want to be right now?  

I think about my own life, and I constantly think and reflect on this.  I would say right now, I am.  I'm currently dating and courting my best friend, a woman I love and excited to see what the future brings us.  I have a job I genuinely do like.  Granted, it's been incredibly busy these past three weeks, and there hasn't been a normal day yet and right when I feel I can catch my breath there's something else going on.   I live with some awesome guys.  Yesterday after a long day tabling after Masses, I passed out for a nap.  Anthony woke me up an hour and a half later, and told me he made dinner.

Two years ago, I was in Costa Rica and I was right where I needed to be, single, with a whole year away from the world to figure out who is the adult Matt away from CUA.  I needed every single bit of that time to make mistakes, find out which Matt showed up, and which Matt I wanted to bring back.  That year has forever shaped who I am today and who I want to be in my career and home life.

I do have dreams for five and ten years from now, and shoot there's still that big dream of writing a book one day.  I don't know when that will be because I haven't had any time to blog anymore, though I appreciate the encouragement I've gotten from some that there are still readers out there (which is humbling to accept).

But I remember where I was five and ten years ago.  And I was hoping for a Matt with a job and on his way to a vocation.  Shoot, I am there and it was more than I could hope for and not at all how I planned it.

God is great, and I constantly reflect, it's only when I let Him be.



  1. Even though sometimes we may struggle with where we are, I do agree with this. God works with us right where we are...And that's where we are supposed to be.

  2. Also, do you mind if I link to this post on my blog?

  3. The only place to be is in the present moment! (Ooh, and my present moment is calling me back from blogland!) You ARE right where you're supposed to be - great example of trusting & joyful surrender without the loss of engagement of your own will. Very inspiring indeed! :) Go Matt. Hi to that lovely lady of yours!

    1. I appreciate it, thanks. I'm glad the present moment is calling you back to blog land!