What can we do before the fire we finally see before us? Photo credit: W. Chiu/AP |
It is an understatement that our holy Catholic Church is on fire right now. Well it’s been burning for a very long time, but now the light of truth has allowed the rest of us to see it. This summer we started with the scandal of (former) Cardinal McCarrick and his abuse of power, sexually assaulting seminarians and priests in his earlier years. We learned about the cover up bishops and dioceses made. And now in recent news: the report of the Pennsylvania Grand Jury, with accusations of 300 priests responsible for sexual abuse incidents of almost 1,000 minors. Even worse is the graphic detail of these abuses, which I do not recommend reading in its entirety.
My sentiment
is I’m sure, like many: I felt and still
feel literally ill and disgusted after reading any details of either
scandal. I mourned, and although no
tears fell, I cried deep in my soul. One
thing I recognized is that this is not a “them” (priests and bishops) versus “us”
(everyone else) struggle. It’s just an “us”
thing because we are all connected, those living and deceased, as the Body of
Christ. In that case, in my small way, I
mourn the deep hurt my Body (the Church) has caused. On behalf of all Catholics, I am so sorry for
what my Church has done in destroying these young people’s lives.
This is not a “them” (priests and bishops) versus “us” (everyone else) struggle. It’s just an “us” thing because we are all connected, those living and deceased, as the Body of Christ.
I’m angry. I’m really angry. I’m angry that men whom people relied for fatherly
love abused that role in the most sick, twisted, and unimaginable ways. I’m angry at all the bishops who covered up
these scandals, using more than a million dollars of the people’s money, offertory money, so these scandals can
stay silent. I’m angry at the response
of both McCarrick and Cardinal Wuerl and their “surprise” of
the news. I have three young girls, and we
teach our oldest to tell the truth always, even when it’s scary, even when it
hurts. I am angry because I feel lied
to. I am angry there seems to be no
ownership, no apology. These actions are
an awful example to my children.
With that said, there are a few
things I want to say, how I’ve been processing, that I feel few places have emphasized:
1.
I think it’s really important to take the time
to be angry, mourn, and talk out our emotions with close people in our
lives. Especially bring it to the Lord
in prayer. Can we imagine how angry and
sad Jesus must have felt taking these indescribable sins on the Cross, nailing
it to His hands, cutting into His side?
2. McCarrick, these PA priests, and all others who
have done wrong: they are not the enemy.
The Enemy is the Devil. Let me
repeat that. The Enemy. Is. The Devil. He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named wants to stay
exactly that---not named. He wants to appear he
has nothing to do with this and pin us against each other. This is no means justifies these priests’
actions---they allowed Evil to be done through them---but in the beginning of
it all, it is truly the Devil at work. What
a well-aimed missile to try to take out heads of our Church and infiltrate it from
within. Head shot.
McCarrick, these PA priests, and all others who have done wrong: they are not the enemy. The Enemy is the Devil.
3.
I need priests, good priests, to lead me, to lead
us. I’m incredibly grateful we have one where
I work at the Catholic Student Center at University of Maryland. He didn’t skip a beat, making sure to address
the grand jury report in his homily the day after the news. He plans to continue to do so and has made
clear his door is open for anyone who wants to talk. I am grateful he took the time to talk to our
small staff, to discuss our plans for our students moving forward. I know many priests who are doing this in our
Archdiocese of Washington. I need priests
and bishops who will show how they’re leading with prayer and penance. The work of the priests I know, along with the great work of some of my lay friends,
is why I still strongly believe in my local Church.
4.
We have to take the time and remember why we are
Catholic. For me, it begins with the Eucharist. I can’t get over the clarity of John Chapter 6;
it’s fulfillment of the Ark of the Covenant from the Old Testament, the new sacrificial
Lamb from Passover, the new Manna from the Desert, the Bread of Life for all of
us to receive so we may have life, too. And
it all comes from the priest’s consecrated hands. If I want to believe in everything Jesus
said, I believe in the “keys” he handed Peter, the first pope, for his Church
to be succeeded. No pope means no
bishops means no priests means no Eucharist.
I can’t live without it. (The
Eucharist, by the way, is priest proof.)
We have to take the time and remember why we are Catholic. For me, it’s the Eucharist.
5.
We have to look to Mary who leads us to Christ. Wednesday we just celebrated the Assumption
of Mary, when every year I joke, “The day Mary assumed she was going to heaven.” How much more do we need the image and love
of the Holy Family? With God, our Father
and Mary, our Mother, I need now more than ever the authentic love only a
perfect Father and Mother can provide.
6.
I also have a lesson to learn from the bishops’ mistake,
from them trying to hide the skeletons in their closet from their Bride, the
Church. I had to reflect if there are any skeletons left in my closet, that
I was withholding from my bride, Mimi. Praise be to God I’ve already apologized in the
past for my most egregious offenses towards her. But I decided to make no assumptions,
and asked her if I can tell her anything else I’m ashamed of and kept within. I didn’t want to have a conversation, decades
later, that could cause more damage. I wanted her to love a more
total, complete, broken me.
I had to reflect if there were any skeletons left in my closet, that I was withholding from my bride, Mimi.
7.
I learned a long time ago that I must say the
words of forgiveness even when I’m not ready to. Forgiving sets my heart free from being
consumed by another. Thursday morning’s
Gospel, Jesus tells Peter that we must forgive our brothers “not seven times
but seventy-seven times.” I’m sure that
also means 300 times and a 1,000 times. Yesterday
morning in prayer, I forgave out loud in specificity what was causing harm in
my heart so it would not consume me. I forgave the priests and bishops I’m so
mad at. This does not mean I’m done
being angry or will forget what happen.
My Church is on fire and we all
can finally see it. When there is a
fire, there’s two directions we can go: away or, if properly equipped, toward
it. The one thing we can’t do is stay
where we are. I cannot stay where I am
in the fire of this mess---in my prayer life, in my penances, in my actions. I must dive deeper into the mystery of the
Eucharist. I must cling to the
Cross. I must ask Mary to intercede. I must look to the Saints who have suffered
greater difficulties. As I’ve been
clawing out of my recent stagnant prayer life, the news has been cold water to
my face. I must up my game.
I thought of the dear priests
in my life, including a college best friend who just entered parish ministry, who
will be persecuted for the sins of their brothers. In addition to offering it up for victims, I
feel called to offer my prayers and fasting for the protection of these priests
I call friends, and all priests for their protection and purification. I invite as many as possible to do the same.
Lastly, in my desire to see
change in the sexual morality of the Church, I know I must start with myself. It must begin with you. I must continue to do what I can, with the
help of Jesus, to keep my eyes, mind, and heart pure in this battle against the
Devil.
Brothers and sisters, we all
now can see the Church on fire. Take the
time to process, be angry, and mourn. Do
not be silent. Do not throw it under the
dusty skeleton rug and move on with life.
When you’re ready, let’s together, run towards the fire. The Church needs the cold water of the Holy
Spirit, and it can begin with all of us in our prayers and offerings leaning on
Christ.
Amén.
Excellent perspective Matt, and incisively written. You have a large, merciful heart and love for the Church. Don't stop your superb work.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Praise God!
ReplyDeleteGood perspective... but I think we also need to channel our anger into action in the form of letters to our bishops and pope. In my opinion the only way forward is for everyone to come clean about the past, which many dioceses still have not done (or have only done so halfway).
ReplyDeleteYeah great input!
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